(Career Progress) BossedUp Newsletter: 1/28 Workshop @ Science Club & 1/29 Power Hour @ Darlington House!

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From: Emilie, Bossed Up <info@bossedup.org>
Date: Mon, Jan 26, 2015 at 10:10 AM
Subject: The B-Word
To: Jim <jimmcbride13@gmail.com>

A little Monday Motivation to kick-start your week... I'm excited to get together this week for our final January Wednesday Workshop on sustaining your long-term goals for 2015 and our Power Hour Thursday, and I hope you'll join me there in cheering each of our fellow bosses on. I'm sure by now you've heard me call you "boss" at least once or twice. It's a thing we do here at Bossed Up that reinforces our identities as leaders of our lives. But there's another b-word you hear more often. That's right, let's talk about "bitch." Here's what Madonna had to say about it:      I had the pleasure of working with our friends at the YWCA National Capital Area this weekend, and we discussed the double-binds women leaders face. When we're assertive, we risk being labeled with words like "shrill," "cold," and "bitch." When men exhibit these same traits, no one bats an eye. Here's the kicker: we don't even need to be called the b-word to change our behavior because of it. Think back to the last time you said or did something that might have caused someone else to call you a bitch (even if just to themselves in their own head or later on when retelling the story). How did that make you feel? Would you do it again? Having trouble thinking of an incident in which you put your foot down and risked being called a bitch? Why is that? Are you used to being the nice girl and feel anxious or frustrated that too often you can't find the words to stand up for yourself? It's not just you or me we're talking about here - this stuff affects all of us: "What is really going on, as peer reviewed studies continually find, is that high-achieving women experience social backlash because their very success – and specifically the behaviors that created that success – violates our expectations about how women are supposed to behave. Women are expected to be nice, warm, friendly, and nurturing. Thus, if a woman acts assertively or competitively, if she pushes her team to perform, if she exhibits decisive and forceful leadership, she is deviating from the social script that dictates how she 'should' behave. By violating beliefs about what women are like, successful women elicit pushback from others for being insufficiently feminine and too masculine. As descriptions like 'Ice Queen,' and 'Ballbuster' can attest, we are deeply uncomfortable with powerful women. In fact, we often don't really like them." - Harvard Business Review.  Channel your inner Madonna this week, boss: DO IT ANYWAY. We can't skirt around the b-word all our lives. At the end of the day, the way others perceive your actions is never entirely in your hands anyway (so let yourself off the hook a bit, would you?!). I'm not advocating that we all become tyrants overnight, but we can't get after our goals and depend on being well-liked by everyone all the time. That's why this community is so vital: we encourage each of us to get bossed up and get shit done - even if that means operating outside the norm. Keep bossin, bitch! (...channeling my best Jesse Pinkman impression here...) xo, Emilie Did ya dig this? Forward to a friend to share the Bossed Up love. Copyright © 2015 Bossed Up, LLC, All rights reserved. unsubscribe from this list

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